This is relevant to a post I made on my movie site recently.
Most of our movies revolve around this.
It happens to most of us. And different people call it by different names. But each word stands for something and is perceived differently by different people.
So here’s my take.
When boy meets girl, there’s different things that happen…
It is kinda tough to label and sorta bracket them with strict definitions, but here’s an attempt…
Lust: When your BODY says go for it, just do it and nothing else matters.
In some parts of the world, this phenomenon is also called Love at first sight… he he!
Infatuation: When your HEART says go for it but MIND says otherwise.
Platonic: When your SOUL falls for it, but BODY plays spoilsport.
(I remember a definition of platonic that goes: the interval between the first meeting and the first kiss)
Arranged relationship (the arranged marriage phenomenon): When your MIND says you can make it work, it’s just perfect and this is the person!
Love: When your HEART, MIND, BODY and SOUL realises and agrees that you are happy just being with this person!
Crush: When something about the person appeals to either your HEART, MIND, BODY or SOUL but you don’t want to do anything about it.
But again, these are just definitions, labels or just words…
Think about that first feeling you got when you were in school, when you were attracted towards a girl/boy for the first time in your life. That to me, is pure unadulterated love. Because, it was unconditional. There was no criteria or thinking behind it all. It was just love.
As we grow older, we start adding the criteria with the pretext of maturity. We give it names and definitions as I have just done.
At the end of the day, it’s just about time and space. The more time and space you spend with one person, the more likely that you are going to be more attached to them and at some point, even fall in love. It’s very scientific at some level. Which is why arranged marriages in India WORK. Two people who spend a lot of time and space together, discover each other and learn to live unconditionally, in spite of what the other person actually is, as he/she is and for what he/she is… even if its ugly, fat, lazy, stupid, evil or exact opposite of what you really wanted in the first place.
It is the will that matters. The resolve. Determination. Add Understanding each other to that and any two people in this world can live with each other. Love is that unconditional being-there-for-the-other element which keeps people together. Which is why best friends make great life partners and great life partners make best friends.
I wudn’t say I’m totally accurate about these observations and it differs from person to person… but yeah, this is wat I think!
So cheers people!
(Yes, my heart, mind, body and soul is happy to be here)
Your friendly neighbourhood Suderman!