– People want to believe they are so different from the others. Don’t we all need almost the same things from life? Family, Space, Time, Happiness, Love, Friends? As much as we want to believe we are different, I think most of us (if not all of us) need the same things. How can we all be so different with almost the same physical features and emotional needs? We all want to love and be loved. We all want Mom and Dad. We all want money and to have a good time with friends. And sometimes, we all want to be alone. That doesn’t make us weird. It just makes us human.
– People want to be so politically correct about everything. “Oh, you mean you were just going out with her, not dating her”? How different is seeing someone different from dating someone as different from going out with someone regularly, I still do not understand! At the other end of the spectrum, when I tell my friends I was out with any female friend of mine for second consecutive day, they tend to say, “Oh! Your latest girlfriend?” and yes, I too tend to say what has now become a chorus in office: “Gimme a break, she’s not my girlfriend.” Is it that big a deal for people to admit “Yeah, I like this girl/guy and I’m getting to know her/him.” Aren’t they all stages of a relationship? Getting to know somewhere becomes dating or seeing each other and some day becomes what is known as “going around” or a committed relationship. What is that human urge to label relationships, which to some extent is understandable, but even the stages?? Tch Tch!
– People do not realise the value of what they have and start cribbing only when they lose it. Haven’t we all seen that happen? Reminds me of that Bryan Adams song, ‘Baby when you’re gone, I realised I’m in love.’ It’s not just love. It’s the same with friends. Or just things. I missed my bike most when it went for service. I was busy kicking it the rest of the time when it was with me. (But duh, bikes don’t start without the kicks, cut the drama out!) I missed the dial-up Internet at home when it was gone. I miss my good old Windows 98. And the new Windows XP sucks! Or maybe I should get used to it.
– Most nice people are considered boring. A friend told me she had a coupla really nice guys for friends but no, she can’t see herself attracted to them. I can almost see what she means. People do find nice people boring. Even I find some of my nice women friends boring. Hmmmm! So… I’m going to be an asshole. Women only seem to like em. he he! But seriously, I think evil adds character to a person. Good is really monotone. Back to my take on balance and equilibrium. There needs to be good and evil in a person, and of the right balance to make the character interesting or at least exciting. On second thoughts, maybe it’s this search for adventure and character that leads to failed relationships. Good is boring all right, but hey… at least reliable and makes you feel good at the end of the day. At least, you don’t feel used at the end of the day.
– The most interesting people are always miles away. Cuz the grass is always greener? Well, I find some wonderful people online, I just got done chatting with a couple of people I met online — one, a few weeks ago and another just two days ago. Today, they are like best buddies. You hit off almost instantly with them, but that’s also cuz you are more open to people you think you’re never ever gonna meet. And soon before you know it, a bond is created. The romantically foolish fall for it, but then virtual relationships are also the easiest to get over. So why not take the learning from it and implement it to the real world… Now, if only we were this open to people we knew in real life, you never know who could turn out to be that special person. Besides, it’s easier to trust real people in your space/city/town.
– We have to be complicated or pretend to lead complicated lives. Why do we all put a halo around a simple thing as love? It isn’t something that needs months or years to figure out! It’s the simplest thing in the planet. Ah! I can just think of this one out-of-this-world line from Notting Hill when Julia Roberts tells Hugh Grant: “I’m just a girl asking a boy to love her.” Can’t real life relationships be that simple ever?
– I’m still single. Well, let’s just say I’m still waiting for that girl to tell this boy in that many words. *Sigh* 🙂
MADRAS INK. 
1)nope. i dont think its abt wanting to be different.its abt defining YOUR “USP”. what makes you YOU. and its not so important that others get it, than that you get it. in fact, i think most people dont WANNA be different.at some basic level, we all wanna belong.be the same.assured that we are the same.why do u think 90% of the people conform to the done thing?cos they wanna belong, and NOT be different.needs are same….common platform being we are human. but needs are only ONE part of what makes you you.
2)cos politically correct ensures that both of you know what is coming and have no expectations. there is something like getting to know someone with and without any expectation that it “could” turn out to be something more.when u are politically correct, you are just letting the other person know, this is where i stand. and this is where i’d like to continue standing 🙂
3)oh people value what they have!!i do!!!but i guess they crib cos they wanna be pampered :p cos everybody wants to be!!
4)true
5) true 😐
6) maybe cos in our head it DOES seem complicated and we need somebody else to point out that our probs are not SO overwhelming 🙂
7) didn’t get that. you are waiting for a girl to tell you, she is single?:-/*stumped*
@6. cos love is not simple.love takes you out of who you are and somehow somewhere along the way you start carrying pieces of the other person and the other person starts carrying pieces of you.losing bits of you can be scary. change can be scary.esp when you dont know whether the change is gonna be good or not.so you decide that at the risk of having nothing more, you will just be contented with what you have (i.e. nothing) yeah yeah nothing ventured, nothing gained.. but maybe, sometimes, you dont wanna gain anything and you dont wanna venture anything cos you are just tired?
The answer to why you are single is the answer to your previous question. If your past relationships were not complicated, you wouldn’t be single now.
Looking at your questions, I see a connection – could it be that you have met a girl who thinks she is different, thinks nice guys (and by extension, you) are boring, who is complaining about losing someone else without realizing that you are there for her, who considers a virtual friend closer than a real one and, seeing that you have posted on this blog, she probably reads here? 🙂
I think arvind has a point here.My past relationships were complicated and that is exactly the reason why i am single right now…..i use my head more than my heart…
Well Anonymous!
🙂
I wud probably have the same comments to make as you too. But I’m sure you would wonder about these things too just as I would. We all do. It’s not fixed ideas, its just thigns we wonder about when we have nothin else to do!
Let’s just say its my nite shift!
arvinda kissna,
kanna, so u know work with the FBI?
desa droghi! he he!
u might have a point actually except for the bit where u said im the nice guy! 😉
after studying with me since Class 3 u shd know better. i stopped being fruit long long long ago!
and arvind,
not all ur observations about the girl are true. im not saying which ones are. cuz like u said the girl probably visits the blog! he he!
anonymous2!!
are u same as anonymous1? if yes, i know who u r! else, sign off as anon2 next time! he he!
thanks!
Ninaipadhellam nadandhu vittaal deivam yedhum illai 🙂
But I have heard from my married/engaged friends that being single is better and the bachelor life is the best part of a man’s life.
Maybe you will miss this bachelor period like you miss your windows 98 once you get hooked 😉
this is anonymous2…and no i am not same as anonymous1…
Windows 98 better than windows xp, what were u thinking?????!!!!!
And I think “interesting people” are miles away because u just get a glimpse of the interesting side of their life, u r simply not there for the rest of the mundane stuff.
ahan…janab going philosophical huh!!
so now my 2 cents…umm make it 2 dollars worth…:P
most o wat u said is well…true
but complicated and different r related issues…people wanna think they r unique and their life is different…and their problems r larger than life (u know FB:P) being simple=being nice(dont ask me how..it just is)=unexciting= sudhi being single :P:P
*grin*@the comments.hello suderman 😀 who is anonymous 1 and anonymous 2??? :p
Well sud, you write some of the amazing things I’ve seen in the blogosphere. straight from the heart. With the question of being single, more than you might have had a complicated relnships earlier I think its luck that plays a part, no matter how hard you try some things dont work. Move on and you’ll be no more a single. Good luck mate..
Well, good news is…if this post is what I think it is, you’re now officially an asshole. Cos’ I interpret this entire post as just a well-thought out scheme to get laid more often. Screw love. You’re just fishing for bimbos who’ll be oooh-ing and aaah-ing over the pseudo-profound pile of horse-crap you’ve posted. And from one guy to another..I sure do hope your plan works out man. More power to you, Suder-Duder!
And as for that Notting Hill quote, genius!
BBC NEWS | Entertainment | Poll reveals cheesiest film lines (#6)
– Le Mongey (your asshole-in-arms)
Prabhu!
Well, I like this single status! Sure gonna miss it for sure! So all I can pray for now is to delay the inevitable!
Cheers and thanks man!
hey TOL!
Like i said havent got used to XP yet!!
and yeah, u’re probably rite about wat makes virtual people exciting… mystery and the human zeal for adventure! cheers!
see, i dint mention ur real name this time! he he!
elixir!
thank u for telling me im unexciting!
he he!
Ms. Sphinx!
Thank you for this great mood I am in currently! 🙂
See you soon!
*hug*
Vin,
It’s fun to be single. That was just one of those nights! Don’t we all have them?
It’s a blog, not an auto-biography… moods will keep changing! Like rite now…Im on a high… maybe its lack of sleep. It’s 4.30 a.m. and I dint sleep much last night either. My film’s taking off, I got some great friends, a super duper team, amazing virtual people like u making my day… what more do I want??
Thanks dude!
CheerS!
And I have someone calling me asshole once again! he he!
The price to pay for being almost famous i tell you! Whoever you are, thanks ‘Dude’ though im afraid we dont think the same way… but yeah, thanks anyway! 😉
I’m in a super mood mate, call me wat u want! 😀
if u’re this bitter with me, I sure have kicked u where it hurt already! so its like I’ve already had my revenge! in advance!! 🙂 go pal, get laid. best of luck…u sure seem to need it!
And Ms.Sphinx, u’re rite… I feel good about being nice to this guy! *Gives her a two finger salute* 🙂
For someone who writes for a National paper, I expected a better comeback than so its like I’ve already had my revenge! in advance!! — that’s how my nieces in kindergarten talk like.
In any case, my comment was in poor taste and I apologize. Will blame it on a hangover that precipitated in name-calling :famous: web personalities! And trust me, I have no idea who you are except for what you have in your profile. So the bitterness, if any, was just a one-time impulsive outpouring sparked off by the contents of your post…something I stumbled upon in my search for Chennai-based blogs.
Good luck with your movie!
Le Mongey – (back to being sole member of the Asshole Club)
what u perceive as “real names” are not real in the real world;) whoa …enuf of this puranam, good luck on the continuing good mood.
Le Mongey!
Writing for a National newspaper has nothin to do with me as an individual. If it did, it wud be like me conforming to a stereotype. Duh! How many journalists you know give themselves comic book names??
I wudnt blame u for ur comment/s, u have no clue wat im capable of. Maybe u shd scroll down a few posts and read the comments to see how i treat assholes.
And Gee! That kindergarten thing… was the intended positioning. 😀
i confess. i am juvenile.
its always good to entertain the kid in us.
cheers dude!
well, okie TOL!
🙂
cheers!
:)) whoa…super sexy mood we are in…!!!
n no i dont really mind u callin me sexy…oh no u call me teddy (pouting)personally i prefer da former 😉 but lets face facts now 😛
wishing ya loadsa high moments
hey! all this brouhaha over whether to be single or not? and whether nice people are boring? ask me, im ancient, nice and boring. but life isnt! its rollicking fun!being nice and meeting the perceived oh-so-boring-unhappening-people! grow up guys!
shelob.
Hmmm….shelob. thats part of the bore.when people insist that you grow up!and when people grow up and lose their wonder at life and the new.and really,how would you define “growing up” anyways??besides the post was not about being single. it was about wondering….. :))and I for one wonder why you latched on ONLY to that ONE statement!!
Lol!
More fighting in my blog? grow up both of u… 😀
actually…dont!
he he!
suderman, with a name like suderman u need to grow up FUST ever!!!! :p
lol! then who’s gonna give u company jaan?
Well written words, unfortunately for a well worn train of thought. Think charge of the light brigade – ours not to reason why…
You award winning bunch of comedians ! For your info, you are the lauging stock of the entire World. 40% of the world’s poverty stricken are in India. 1 in every 2.5 people in poverty in the world is an Indian, and the number is rising drastically and you spend all of your time producing innumerable trash films & beauty paegents ???
http://www.nationmaster.com/graph-T/eco_pov_sha_of_all_poo_peo
A full 1/3 of the population lives in slums, the largest city & commercial center Bombay (home to the mediocre and self-aggrandized Boollywood) is composed of 60% slums and has the unique distinction of being the only city on the planet with more slums than regular housing. There are over 350 million people in absoulte poverty – more than the entire population of the USA. Over 32 international AID and charity organizations are trying
to alleviate the conditions, but the people are content to wallow in poverty and get mesmerized by the flashy lifestyles of the beauty queens and film-stars & seem to forget their own abject misery & squalor ! Get off your backs, the world can’t keep on giving you aid and charity for ever. Chuck out the beauty
queens, film stars & producers and do some real work for a change before the entire lot descends into starvation and poverty.
Brilliant!! You think just like I do and I like your similar views. Keep it up and I’m sure a girl will find you one of these days, as will one will find me. I’m still looking, and posting silly things on my blog in this crazy search. Take care!
When I first saw “why” I thought you were going to write about some movie, indifferent of whether it was a “why did I watch this movie now?” or “why don’t they make movies like this these days anymore?”. But yeah I was surprised to see you write about LIFE and love and all other senti things.
You’re very right about this:
– People do not realise the value of what they have and start cribbing only when they lose it
I have felt that way before and I know I shall feel that again in another year or so, and then my heart’ll break and I’ll get over it (hopefully)
Btw what does complicated life got to do with love? Life can be complex without love. Life IS complex because of lack of love. If everyone loved each other peacefully, why would there be so much chaos on earth?
PS: People are usually politically correct, so as to not to offend anyone.
BTW: You DO seem to be obssessed with Swades. Altho yeah all the people I know who watched it, didnt like it at all (except maybe you n ur junta n I). And yeah Devgan is the sole thing good about Kaal. In the end they suck up the story with nice flaws. But atleast that was tons better than the rest of the shit I saw in the summer.