– People want to believe they are so different from the others. Don’t we all need almost the same things from life? Family, Space, Time, Happiness, Love, Friends? As much as we want to believe we are different, I think most of us (if not all of us) need the same things. How can we all be so different with almost the same physical features and emotional needs? We all want to love and be loved. We all want Mom and Dad. We all want money and to have a good time with friends. And sometimes, we all want to be alone. That doesn’t make us weird. It just makes us human.
– People want to be so politically correct about everything. “Oh, you mean you were just going out with her, not dating her”? How different is seeing someone different from dating someone as different from going out with someone regularly, I still do not understand! At the other end of the spectrum, when I tell my friends I was out with any female friend of mine for second consecutive day, they tend to say, “Oh! Your latest girlfriend?” and yes, I too tend to say what has now become a chorus in office: “Gimme a break, she’s not my girlfriend.” Is it that big a deal for people to admit “Yeah, I like this girl/guy and I’m getting to know her/him.” Aren’t they all stages of a relationship? Getting to know somewhere becomes dating or seeing each other and some day becomes what is known as “going around” or a committed relationship. What is that human urge to label relationships, which to some extent is understandable, but even the stages?? Tch Tch!
– People do not realise the value of what they have and start cribbing only when they lose it. Haven’t we all seen that happen? Reminds me of that Bryan Adams song, ‘Baby when you’re gone, I realised I’m in love.’ It’s not just love. It’s the same with friends. Or just things. I missed my bike most when it went for service. I was busy kicking it the rest of the time when it was with me. (But duh, bikes don’t start without the kicks, cut the drama out!) I missed the dial-up Internet at home when it was gone. I miss my good old Windows 98. And the new Windows XP sucks! Or maybe I should get used to it.
– Most nice people are considered boring. A friend told me she had a coupla really nice guys for friends but no, she can’t see herself attracted to them. I can almost see what she means. People do find nice people boring. Even I find some of my nice women friends boring. Hmmmm! So… I’m going to be an asshole. Women only seem to like em. he he! But seriously, I think evil adds character to a person. Good is really monotone. Back to my take on balance and equilibrium. There needs to be good and evil in a person, and of the right balance to make the character interesting or at least exciting. On second thoughts, maybe it’s this search for adventure and character that leads to failed relationships. Good is boring all right, but hey… at least reliable and makes you feel good at the end of the day. At least, you don’t feel used at the end of the day.
– The most interesting people are always miles away. Cuz the grass is always greener? Well, I find some wonderful people online, I just got done chatting with a couple of people I met online — one, a few weeks ago and another just two days ago. Today, they are like best buddies. You hit off almost instantly with them, but that’s also cuz you are more open to people you think you’re never ever gonna meet. And soon before you know it, a bond is created. The romantically foolish fall for it, but then virtual relationships are also the easiest to get over. So why not take the learning from it and implement it to the real world… Now, if only we were this open to people we knew in real life, you never know who could turn out to be that special person. Besides, it’s easier to trust real people in your space/city/town.
– We have to be complicated or pretend to lead complicated lives. Why do we all put a halo around a simple thing as love? It isn’t something that needs months or years to figure out! It’s the simplest thing in the planet. Ah! I can just think of this one out-of-this-world line from Notting Hill when Julia Roberts tells Hugh Grant: “I’m just a girl asking a boy to love her.” Can’t real life relationships be that simple ever?
– I’m still single. Well, let’s just say I’m still waiting for that girl to tell this boy in that many words. *Sigh* 🙂